Alan Watts again
To the beloved company of the stars , the moon, and the sun;
to ocean, air, and the silence of space;
to jungle, glacier, and desert,
soft earth, clear water and fire on the hearth.
To a certain waterfall in a high forest;
to night rain upon the roof and the wide leaves,
grass in the wind, tumult of sparrows in a bush,
and eyes which give light to the day.
And now the quotes:
If the ego were to disappear, or rather, be seen as a useful fiction, there would no longer be the duality of subject and object, of experiencer and experience. There would simply be a continuous, self-moving stream of experiencing, without the sense of an active subject who controls it or of a passive subject who suffers it. The thinker would be seen as no more than the series of thoughts, and the feeler no more than the feelings.(pp.70-71).
...(I)f political health consists in realizing that legal restraint is freely imposed by the people, philosophical health consists in realizing that our true self is the natural man(sic), the spontaneous Tao, from which we can never deviate. In psychological terms this realization is a total self-acceptance standing, like political freedom, as the constant background of every thought, feeling, and action - however restricted. Such acceptance of oneself is the condition of that underlying integrity, sincerity, and peace of heart which, in the sage, endures bemeath every disturbance. It is, in short, a deeply inward consent to be just exactly what we are and to feel just exactlty what we are feeling at every moment, even before what we are has been changed, however slightly, by accepting it.... Stated boldy, if crudely, it is the insight that whatever we are just now, that is what we should ideally be. This is the sense of the Zen Buddhist saying, "Your ordinary mind is the Tao, the "ordinary mind" being the present, given state of consciousness, whatever its nature. (pp.131-132).
To act or grow creatively we must begin from where we are, but we cannot begin at all if we are not "all here" without reservation, or regret. Lacking self-acceptance, we are always at odds with our point of departure, always doubting the ground on which we stand, always so divided against ourselves that we cannot act with sincerity. Apart from self-acceptance as the ground-work of thought and action, every attempt at spiritual or moral discipline is the fruitless struggle of a mind tht is split assunder and insincere. It is the freedom which is the essential basis of self-restraint. (p.132).
To the extent that we do not yet know what man (sic) is, we do not know what human sexuality is....What man is, and what human sexuality is, will come to be known only as we lay ourselves open to experience with the full sensitivity of feeling which does not grasp.
The experience of sexual love is therefore no longer to be sought as the repetiton of a familiar ecstacy, prejudiced by the experience of what we already know. It will be the exploration of our relationship with an ever-changing, ever unknown partner, unknown because he or she is not in truth the abstract role or person, the set of conditioned reflexes which society has imposed, the stereotyped male or female which education has led us to expect. All these are maya, and the love of these is fantasy. What is not maya is mystery, what cannot be described or measured, and it is this sense - symbolized by the veil of modesty - that woman is always a mystery to man, and man to woman.. It is in this sense that we must understand, van der Leeuw's remarkable saying that "the mystery of life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced."(pp.158-159).

